rebound relationships

Category: Dating and Relationships

Post 1 by Miss Gorgeous (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Thursday, 11-Aug-2005 12:22:37

Hey all, what is your opinion about Rebound relationships? Do you go for it if you like the person, even though you know that in the end, its you that is going to be hurt. Or you do it the other way around like just to have fun or forget about your past relationships? So tell me is it worth being in a rebound relationship and does it works or not.

Post 2 by chelslicious (like it or not, I'm gonna say what I mean. all the time.) on Thursday, 11-Aug-2005 23:06:29

no, i dont think so.

Post 3 by Goblin (I have proven to myself and the world that I need mental help) on Friday, 12-Aug-2005 7:45:20

It can work if both of you are able to forget the past and why the relationship ended and how badly the split affected you..then yes I would say a rebound relationship can be successful..however if either partner is unable to focus on the future, instead of digguing up the past,to hurt the other, then the whole thing is doomed

Post 4 by Miss Gorgeous (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Friday, 12-Aug-2005 15:38:56

yep

Post 5 by 1800trivia (I can't call it a day til I enter the zone BBS) on Saturday, 13-Aug-2005 8:22:29

The other issue is transferring your feelings from the past relationship to the future person. when you're in love, you kinda feel that love all around you sometimes, and it's possible that being with someone new might bring back all those feelings prematurely. Then later if you're not compatible, it'll be harder. But it all depends on how each person feels. I'd say, take it extremely slowly.

Post 6 by Goblin (I have proven to myself and the world that I need mental help) on Saturday, 13-Aug-2005 11:01:25

Hmm transerring seems to happen far too often I think in the begining people have unrealistic expectations, and the reality is often devestating..

Post 7 by Ezria (Veteran Zoner) on Saturday, 13-Aug-2005 22:55:23

I've been on both sides of the fence, and my anser is a resounding NO. At least, they haven't worked for me, but at least they didn't end too badly, and it helped me forget about bad breakups.

Post 8 by Goblin (I have proven to myself and the world that I need mental help) on Monday, 15-Aug-2005 12:46:25

What if the relationship is 1 of those cant live together or without each other..I think that must be intolerable.

Post 9 by Miss Gorgeous (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Thursday, 18-Aug-2005 0:45:03

Hey this is just my opinion. But I just think that rebound relationships does not work often times. Its because two people are just longing for some replacements or something. Its better to be in love when your in a relationship. I think its better that way and besides you don’t force feelings to grow there in a short period of time. It will never be like the past. But for some reaon, some rebound relationships do work for a weird reason. I don’t know.

Post 10 by 1800trivia (I can't call it a day til I enter the zone BBS) on Sunday, 21-Aug-2005 9:13:28

Of course, relationships don't start with love; they start with a major attraction and a feeling of compatibility, a feeling like you want to devote a lot more time to this person than to other friends.

Post 11 by Ezria (Veteran Zoner) on Sunday, 21-Aug-2005 12:59:36

Not all relationships involve love. Love is a rare gift, & though a person may think they are in love, often times it's just an incredibly powerful infatuation.